THE TANTIS ROMEO SYNDROME

Many of the issues we deal with in marriages are foundational problems that could have been properly handled if we had been adequately informed and prepared before delving into marriage.

That not withstanding, God is the restorer of faulty foundations and I am sure He often deploys therapy to visit your case and help you out, but you also must be willing to play your part in the whole equation because, so many people are physically married at the moment, but emotionally divorced.

Many are bitter because they feel a sense of being used and dumped by their spouse. We started looking at the second formation couples play in their marriages:

-        Does he/she compare you to another lady/man or talk often about a particular lady/man?

-        Was he/she nice when there was nothing and changed after he/she picked up?

-        Does he/she prefer hanging out with others than with you?

-        If you are still single and reading this, are you desperate about marriage and currently in a relationship where the financial burden rests squarely on you?

-        Does he/she only become sober when there is a financial problem and goes back to his/her vomit after gaining financial strength?

Why do people find themselves in this type of marriage? It could be because, but not limited to; marital delay/pressure to marry, the need for emotional support, dysfunctional upbringing, quest to leave home, past abuse that wasn’t dealt with, loneliness, etc

Remember we started from the fundamental question ‘Why did you get married?’ and that question is playing out again. There's however something that can be done if you think your marriage is towing the path of Tantis Romeo and I will share that tomorrow.

Happiness is feeling good about yourself and you can choose to be happy in your marriage irrespective of the circumstances surrounding your present situation. You will succeed.

To be continued

I honour you.

Praise Fowowe