HOW TO DEAL WITH A BOSSY DON

Thanks so much for reading this from me. I never take for granted the fact that you read from me. God bless all of you and may your home enjoy bliss. One of my readers asked an important question yesterday on how to handle a situation, where you have become a boss by your superior financial power.

Truth is never marry a husband you can’t trust with the leadership of your life because money is not what makes you a leader in the home. Husbands whose wives earn more than them shouldn’t feel threatened because a wife gets to a level where she looks beyond money and seeks a proper groomer of a bride who can create enabling environment for everyone’s potentials to thrive. So, groom yourself into a leader and don’t suffer from insecurity.

I must also appeal to women in this category, to know that the fact that you are a boss at work doesn’t make you a boss at home. You must learn to step aside for your spouse to take the lead when you are back in the territory where you are his Vice President. This requires a lot of wisdom but you can do it.

Now talking about what you must do to handle a bossy don: You need to concentrate on developing yourself, that is the only person you can change. The discovery over the years is that the Bossy Don respects a spouse who knows his/her onions and is formidable. You need to get a life and stop sulking. You had a life before marriage and that life shouldn’t stop during marriage.

What are your likes, hobbies, deepest dreams and desires? You might also want to get involved in a cause that benefits others and joining a support group might not be a bad option either.

However, I must say to you that in case the don is also a spouse beater (I have seen a man being beaten by his wife before), then you need to cry out and get help. It is only the living that can be in love; the dead can’t be talking of love. Seek counsel, and if need be, get away from the spot of domestic violence pending the time the Don gets back his senses, and signs an undertaking of sanity. Please take the right action with wisdom.

I am aware a few people may have issues with this and expect the victim to remain till he/she is killed but you must know that in the laws of the Country, a spouse isn’t empowered to brutalize another, so it is a criminal offence.

Above all, the Bossy Don needs perspectives and right mentorship so you might want to confide in someone he/she respects. However, everyone has a prize and paying their prize is one of the surest ways to get them to do your bidding. You are a human being don’t turn yourself into a victim. You are a spouse with rights not a slave.

So dance again, dress well again, look good again and don’t allow the emotional torture transform you into someone that you are not. Love yourself and speak out if you need to let out your pain but always remember you deserve to love and be loved. In case your esteem is a mess and you are dealing with depression or need a new life then sign up www.iampraisefowowe.com/aliens and script a new you.

 Your home will experience a turn around this season.

I honour you.

Praise Fowowe

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